It costs nothing, but creates much. It enriches those who receive,
without impoverishing those who give. It happens in a flash and the
memory of it sometimes lasts forever, None are so rich they can get
along without it, and none so poor but are richer for its benefits. It
creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is
the countersign of friends. It is rest to the weary, daylight to the
discouraged, sunshine to the sad, and Nature's best antidote fee
trouble. Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it
is something that is no earthly good to anybody till it is given away.
For nobody needs a smile so much as those
who have none left to give!
At a dinner party, one of the guests, a woman who had
inherited money, was eager to make a pleasing impression on
everyone. She had squandered a modest fortune on sables,
diamonds and pearls. But she hadn't done anything whatever about
her face. It radiated sourness and selfishness. She didn't realize what
everyone knows: namely, that the expression one wears on one's
face is far more important than the clothes one wears on one's back.
Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, "I like you, You
make me happy. I am glad to see you." That is why dogs make such
a hit. They are so glad to see us that they almost jump out of their
skins. So, naturally, we are glad to see them.
A baby's smile has the same effect.
An insincere grin? No. That doesn't fool anybody. We know it is
mechanical and we resent it. I am talking about a real smile, a
heartwarming smile, a smile that comes from within, the kind of
smile that will bring a good price in the marketplace.
There's far more information in a smile than a
frown. That's why encouragement is a much more effective teaching
device than punishment."
The effect of a smile is powerful - even when it is unseen. Telephone
companies throughout the World have a program called
"phone power" which is offered to employees who use the telephone
for selling their services or products. In this program they suggest
that you smile when talking on the phone. Your "smile" comes
through in your voice.
According to me, people rarely succeed at anything unless they have fun
doing it. I dont put much faith in the old adage that hard work alone is the magic key that will unlock the door to our desires.
You don't feel like smiling? Then what? Two things. First, force
yourself to smile. If you are alone, force yourself to whistle or hum a
tune or sing. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to
make you happy. Here is the way the psychologist and philosopher
William James put it:
"Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go
together; and by regulating the action, which is under the more
direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling, which
is not.
"Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our
cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if
cheerfulness were already there. ..."
Every body in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure
way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness
doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner
conditions.
It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you
are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think
about it. For example, two people may be in the same place, doing
the same thing; both may have about an equal amount of money
and prestige - and yet one may be miserable and the other happy.
Why? Because of a different mental attitude.
"There is nothing either good or bad," said Shakespeare, "but
thinking makes it so."
Abraham Lincoln once remarked that "most folks are about as happy as
they make up their minds to be." He was right.
Take this from me, It really works -
Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of
the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine;
greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handclasp.
Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking
about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would
like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move
straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things
you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will
find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are
required for the fulfillment of your desire, just as the coral insect
takes from the running tide the element it needs. Picture in your
mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the
thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular
individual.Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude -
the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer. To think rightly
is to create. All things come through desire and every sincere prayer
is answered. We become like that on which our hearts are fixed.
Carry your chin in and the crown of your head high.
The ancient Chinese were a wise lot - wise in the ways of the world;
and they had a proverb that you and I ought to cut out and paste
inside our hats. It goes like this: "A man without a smiling face must
not open a shop."
Your smile is a messenger of your good will. Your smile brightens the
lives of all who see it. To someone who has seen a dozen people
frown, scowl or turn their faces away, your smile is like the sun
breaking through the clouds. Especially when that someone is under
pressure from his bosses, his customers, his teachers or parents or
children, a smile can help him realize that all is not hopeless - that
there is joy in the world.
"People who smile, tend to manage teach and sell more effectively "
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